It's a question libertarians pose from time to time, because it is rather fundamental.
It seems silly to most people, for most people consider they are in charge.
Most of the time, in most ways you are.
Indeed, most people in Western liberal democracies accept that adults can choose how they live their lives, in most ways. That includes freedom of choice of religion (or no religion), and so to live one's life within whatever teachings they wish, as long as it does not involve infringing upon the rights of others.
So why do so many deny voluntary euthanasia?
Is it fear that people will make decisions they will regret? Well, maybe. However, surely if a person demands to end his life time and time again, and is absolutely distraught with the indignity and frustration of his life, is the validity of that no longer worth arguing? Besides. Who are YOU to say whether someone would regret a decision? It is, of course, impossible to regret anything when you are dead.
Is it a belief that life is "sacred"? Yes, often. However, that is a religious belief. A deeply held one no doubt. Yet should this apply to the person whose life is actually is? To whom is it more sacred than the person living the life? The religious would say "God", but if the person concerned does not believe that, how can this view be forced upon him?
I know religious conservatives have deeply held beliefs, and are not swayed by being confronted by those who want to die, those who have spent months and years day in day out suffering, enduring a life that they despise - in part because, unlike most who seek suicide, they do not have the means to actually end their life painlessly.
However, I'm posting this tragic story because Tony Nicklinson knows only too well who owns his life. Not him.
In this interview by the UK's Channel 4 news, he pleads for the right to permit someone else to take his life.
He has "Locked in Syndrome". He cannot physically move anything except his eyes. This man is a father, a husband, once a rugby player, who has had enough after seven years of existing as he does.
Yes, those making such a request should not be those pressured to do so. Yes those making such a request should not be able to do so on a whim. Yes those making such a request should have counselling and there be clarity that they are not mentally ill (be careful in how you define that too).
However, once you get through such safeguards, then get out of the way.
Don't impose your religious beliefs on others.
You do not own their life.
You do not speak for "God" or whatever deity you wish to plead the case for.
Let a peaceful adult who knows what he wants, who declares how much he suffers with his existence, to end his life.
and yes. This also means opposing the force feeding of an adult with anorexia who wants to die. The alternative, after all, is the state assaulting an innocent adult.
You see, those who oppose assisted suicide are not only willing to get in the way of those who haven't the means to take their lives, but also to inflict force upon those who do, as long as the person who does is "ill".
It comes down to the belief that the state not only should protect people from others, but protect them from themselves - even to use restraint and invasive intimate physical force to do so - even if protection causes them constant and persistent pain and suffering.
Now how can one believe that is right to inflict choices on adults that involve such pain and suffering that if a private citizen initiated it, he or she would face a criminal charge and likely lengthy prison sentence?
Moreover, if you do resist allowing people to take their own lives, when they are consenting intelligent adults, in obvious ongoing chronic distress, why do you think it is your right to do so?
For if you simply got out of the way, then all these people would be guilty of is offending you and possibly, your conception of a deity.
You do not have a right to not be offended, and certainly you do not have the right to prevent the offence of a deity.
Moreover, if you do resist allowing people to take their own lives, when they are consenting intelligent adults, in obvious ongoing chronic distress, why do you think it is your right to do so?
For if you simply got out of the way, then all these people would be guilty of is offending you and possibly, your conception of a deity.
You do not have a right to not be offended, and certainly you do not have the right to prevent the offence of a deity.
So what would YOU say to Mr Nicklinson as he sits only able to communicate by the movement of his eyeballs, weeping? If YOU think his life is worth more than he does, what will YOU do to prove it? Will you spend day after day, week after week, month after month, sitting with him, with his existence, unable to walk, talk, gesticulate, move, manage your ablutions, wash yourself, dress yourself, change the channel on the TV, itch, scratch, hug or kiss your loved ones? Will you tell him every day as he looks into your eyes that he ought to keep going on like this, whereas those with the physical means can choose to terminate their lives?
Go on - prove your compassion isn't just words. Share in his life in a way that will make a difference, or leave this peaceful suffering man alone to make his own choices.
He's not asking you to kill him, he's just asking you to let him choose to die when and how he wants.
It's his life, not yours - and as he does not (and cannot) own your life, then stop trying to own his for your conscience or because of your own belief system.
Go on - prove your compassion isn't just words. Share in his life in a way that will make a difference, or leave this peaceful suffering man alone to make his own choices.
He's not asking you to kill him, he's just asking you to let him choose to die when and how he wants.
It's his life, not yours - and as he does not (and cannot) own your life, then stop trying to own his for your conscience or because of your own belief system.